Five Things to think about when choosing an epitaph, by Fergus Wessel.

By Fergus Wessel a master of his craft, carving gravestones and memorials from his studio in Oxfordshire

By Fergus Wessel
a master of his craft, carving gravestones and memorials from his studio in Oxfordshire

  1. Allow yourself plenty of time.  We suggest taking at least a year before choosing an epitaph - it allows your emotions to settle a little and you’ll find you will change your ideas over time.

  2. Keep it uplifting – remember the epitaph will be there for generations to come. Try to choose something that celebrates your loved one’s life.

  3. Visit other gravestones for inspiration, as well as literature, poetry and lyrics.

  4. Think about who the epitaph is speaking to - it is addressed to the public or a specific person?

  5. Less is more - a short epitaph can be just as moving as a very long one. Sometimes simply the words “So Loved” can be all you need.

Fergus Wessel

About Fergus Wessel
Fergus Wessel runs
Stoneletters Studio, which specialises in fine, hand-carved headstones.  He’s passionate about headstones, and campaigns to spread awareness of the comfort and healing that a memorial can bring to those who are bereaved. He’s in the process of writing a book about choosing a headstone to raise money for Maggie's Centre, Oxford.
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It’s Dying Matters Awareness Week.
Dying Matters aims to help people talk more openly about dying, death and bereavement, and to make plans for the end of life. This year, Awareness Week runs from 13th -19th May, with a different theme every day. We’ll be running a #FiveThings to coincide with the daily themes.