Five Things about grief.
Five Things is a collection of the five things our collaborators want you to know about life, death and everything in between. Over the next few months, we’ll be covering illness, dying, death, funerals, grief, heartache, adversity and many other topics.
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“Talking about death is so important. In our society it’s become so taboo, something to avoid. The thing is, not talking about it does not save you or those you love from dying. It does however keep you unprepared and scared of the one thing we have no control over.”
“When life feels utterly meaningless and stretches ahead with the gaping crater in the shape of your loved one and the pain feels overwhelming and the sadness swallows you up, it takes immense courage to keep going.”
“I wish I knew then that living with the pain of unresolved loss, bottling things up, would lead me to a more complicated and longer lasting grief that was difficult and painful to unpick, even with the help of a professional years down the line.”
“I have found that the things that drove me absolutely mental mad about my mum, are the very things that hurt so much now they are gone.”
Marie lost her mother when she was 7 years old, her adoptive mother at 18, and her father just before turning 31.
Tamsin’s mum died in August 2020, after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in early 2018.
Ajarae’s dad died suddenly in 2019.
The author of this Five Things was inspired to write about her experiences following the death of her mother.